Nobody likes to fall out with their family. Whether you’re having problems over money, health or children, it’s important that you resolve issues as soon as possible – after all, you only get one family, so it makes sense to keep on each other’s good sides. Below, we’ve put together five ways to overcome family disputes and get yourself back on track.
- Go for a counselling session
One of the best ways to overcome family disputes is to go for a counselling session. With the help of a mediator or third-party counsellor who is outside of your circle, you’ll be able to discuss your problems and air grievances calmly and sensibly – and you won’t have to worry about your arguments escalating further as you’ll be in a controlled environment.
The cost of a counselling session can vary from town to town, but if you’re worried that a regular session will be too expensive, then charities like Relate offer affordable solutions.
- Book a family vacation
We’re not telling you to run away from your problems, but having a break from the stresses of everyday life and spending quality time with your loved ones can help. Get your children to turn off their smartphones, and avoid answering work calls or emails during your break. Family activities such as cycling, swimming and board games can bring you closer together and help you resolve problems and tensions in a calm and relaxed manner, too.
- Learn to make compromises
It’s an unfortunate truth that you’re not always going to agree with your loved ones – and that can be bad news if you live in the same house. If you’re having problems with children, your partner or a family member, sit down and learn to make compromises.
If your children want to play music on an evening, but you want some peace, then compromise by letting them play until 8 pm, or buy them a pair of headphones so that they can listen to music in their own time. If you’ve separated from a partner and they want to spend more time with your children, then compromise byalternating weekends, so you both get to see your children as much as possible. That way, everyone is a winner.
- Let DNA help
In more serious cases of family disputes, you may need to turn to DNA. If you’re concerned that you’re not the father of a child, for example, then paternity tests can give you a clearer answer and peace of mind. Sometimes, it’s easier to use the official routes rather than take the word of your family member or partner, especially if you think they’re lying.
- Admit defeat and move forward
It’s sad, but in some cases, you may not be able to resolve problems within your family circle. Perhaps you’ve had long-running disagreements over inheritance, or maybe a member of your family is jealous of your success. Accept that there’s nothing more you can do to resolve your issues and move forward. You could block your family member on social media, ask them not to call at your address and conduct any official matters (such as bills, caring for your parents, arranging funerals, etc.) through official channels such as email.
By taking on board these five tips, you should be able to overcome disagreements within your family, or at least come to a sensible and amicable solution that benefits all parties.